In your relationship, it is not anybody’s own responsibility to put in all the effort! I had to begin this post with that. It’s not your single responsibility as the man to make it work out and that’s the same with women. You don’t put everything on your partner like a selfish and self-centered person and expect your partner to become the camel of the relationship, carrying all the heavy baggages and stress on their heads and backs while you sit comfortably and watch. Apart from it not being fair, it’s not right. Nothing about that arrangement is right.
A relationship is a partnership. It’s not a one- man business or sole proprietorship. If it were, you wouldn’t need to have a partner in the first place. Now, a partnership business requires equal input by both partners for it to work. In some cases, these partners come together and decide on what they would do individually for the business to work. One could say, “Alright, I’m the more financially buoyant one. I’ll take complete care of everything related to our finances for the first two years of this business” and the other would say, “Since you have taken up all financial responsibilities, I’ll just handle the administration and make sure the finances are channeled to the right places”. Now, they have shared responsibilities equally and you will see that that business will prosper. This is exactly what a relationship is naturally meant to be about. A relationship is an opportunity for two people to come together and make sacrifices that will be of immense benefit to the two parties involved.
When I read some articles or hear people’s stories about how they are the sole holders of their relationships, I get shocked. I mean, you would hear stories about how a man is taking care of all the finances and still doing the house runs in his marriage. I’m sorry, but, no matter what you want to say, feminism does not include hatred for your partner and a disgusting sense of entitlement. You are not entitled to anybody overworking themselves for you, especially not your partner.
I read a story one time about this couple. The man was the one who was complaining. He said he was a working-class individual with a very good job and that meant that his wife and children never lacked. His wife however decided not to work because her husband already provided all the money needed in the family and credited her account on numerous occasions just so she could go shopping with some friends and have fun. However, one day, something bad happened and his business crashed. His children had to change schools and a lot of things were cut out. Every day, his wife would take it upon herself to nag and mock him. When they finally let go of the house help was when all hell let loose as his wife had almost never prepared food in the house and she refused to make any food, saying her manicure would be ruined and the maid was too important to be asked to leave just like that. The fact that her husband was currently having issues with work and money had become a problem suddenly didn’t even bother her. One day, he managed to stumble upon her bank’s statement of account and he was shocked. His wife had stacked up all the money he sent her in the past years and was also running a business he didn’t know of and was making immense gains from it every day. He spoke to her about what he saw, and she told him that her money is her money and he wasn’t in the place to tell her how to spend it. She said she would not bring out money from her own purse to take care of the family needs as that was his responsibility.
I was shocked reading that story and truth is, I know there are a lot of selfish women, but this woman’s selfishness just kind of set the pace. It wasn’t fair and if you are reading this post and, in your relationship, you are the parasite, please just stop it already. Your partner would be very unhappy and that isn’t what this life is for. One thing I always say is that this life is already hard enough and if you are in any association with anybody that adds to your unhappiness, you should end that association and walk away because your mental health is more important that what everybody thinks about you.
Thanks for reading and have a lovely day!
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