Remember the saying, “you can’t eat your cake and have it”? Well, people who cheat are those ones who are greedy enough to eat their cakes and still want to have it. These ones will do everything to get much more than they normally deserve and truth be told, they know that they are wrong. I’ll be citing some examples that will totally blow your mind.
Recently, I saw a tweet where a lady asked, “what would you do if your boyfriend mistakenly cheated on you with your best friend?” I had to wait a minute and understand the idea behind the word, “accidentally”. Truth is, no matter how we try to cover it up or make excuses, nobody cheats without actually wanting to.
In advertising, there are basic steps towards any advert, especially one which you intend to sell to a wide audience and you expect to be successful. The first step towards this sort of advert is the “ideation”. This is the first stage. Here, you have an idea of what you want. For example, you want to advertise a new baby soap. The first thing you need to do is have the imagery of what kind of words, graphics and medium you want to use. When you have created this ides in your head, then, you can pen it down and move on to the next step which is the research.
My point basically is, you never do anything in this life without having an idea of what you want to do. So, you can’t cheat on someone if you haven’t already imagined what it would be like to cheat.
A friend of mine once told me about her experience. She had grown to like a particular young man who was perfect. He would call her, massage her during her cramps, visit with food when she was sick, text every morning and night and generally be there for her every time she needed him. She asked him why he didn’t have a girlfriend and he said he hadn’t seen anyone who was good enough for him. Fast forward to a few weeks later. She got a call from an unknown number to please come downstairs and she did. She met a lady who introduced herself as the girlfriend of the guy she had been hanging around with. She said she travelled for business and returned to find out her boyfriend was frolicking with someone else and she just wanted to be sure she wasn’t just jumping into conclusions. Long story cut short, my friend said she just found herself getting to like him and she totally wasn’t interested in dating somebody’s boyfriend. That was the end of everything.
Millions of times too, men would chat me up from the blues talking about how they wanted to date me. The first question always is, “Aren’t you married?” And some are very confident and they’ll say, “Yes, but my wife doesn’t live with me. Infect, my family is abroad while I’m here and I get very horny and needy too, so I need a fresh young girl like you to make me feel young again”. While some others will gladly take off their rings when they are leaving the house so that when you ask, they’ll tell you, “Ahahn, did you see any ring on my finger? I’m very single jare” Or, “My wife is dead and I’m just trying to get over the pain” Or “My marriage is very complicated. My wife and I are getting a divorce soon. So, I’m literally single”.
These are people’s fathers and husbands and they make it seem very normal. My point here is, cheating is an intentional act. Nobody just “accidentally” cheats on their partner. Therefore, people don’t have any excuse to cheat. If you cheat on your partner, it is your decision to. Let’s all be guided.
People come up with amazing excuses for cheating. I’ll tell you the most recurrent ones I have heard and read about:
1. My partner (wife or husband) doesn’t give me attention.
2. My partner doesn’t satisfy me sexually.
3. My partner cheated on me once.
4. My partner isn’t always available to satisfy my emotional needs.
5. My partner and I are in an open relationship.
6. My partner is very far away.
Have you noticed that in these excuses, the person isn’t giving any details and is not doing anything wrong? Everything that’s making this person want to cheat on their partner is solely caused by the partner. These people are very manipulative and they make you feel like their partner isn’t doing anything right. These are the people that you should stay away from. To these people, you are a tool for their pleasure and whenever they’re satisfied, they move on to the next person.
Marriages and relationships will never work out if people consciously put in efforts to hurt their partnes. Be the good person in your relationship today.
Wink’s Corner
