Relationships are not the fairy tales we watch on the television or read in novels. These books and movies almost always skip the part where the relationship gets boring and things begin to feel monotonous and even a little bit tiring. I’m not here to tell you to give up on your relationship but, to help you realize that no relationship is perfect. This is mainly because it comprises of two people who are imperfect. So, this post is here for you when you get to that point when your relationship begins to feel like a job to you. Also, if your relationship hasn’t gotten here yet but, you just want to skip this phase and have a beautiful relationship on and on, this post is also for you. I’ll just be giving five tips to spice up your relationship.
1. Surprises: remember in the start when you guys were still really into each other and all you wanted was to surprise your partner and see his/her expression? Do you remember the times you would make him his favourite meal just because he mentioned that he had missed it? Remember how his smile lit the whole place and you felt so good? What about the day you bought her the pair of shoes she was busy drooling over on Instagram? Do you remember how she kept jumping up and down and around? And also hugging you and crying in between? Do you remember how that happiness made you happy too? After a while, some relationships get too cold and nobody is willing to put the extra effort. Surprise your partner today and see.
2. Don’t stop wooing your partner: yep. You heard me. Marriage seminars and even therapy sessions would tell you this and I’m telling you for free. You should start mailing me to send my account details yunno? See, when you were still very single and sincerely wanted to mingle with this lady, you were doing everything. Everything. You would buy chocolates, take her out for dinner, order for stuff to be delivered to her and still make breakfast in bed. You would call, text, wait to pick her up after work and everything else. So, what happened now? You think that when you have gotten what you want, you can now just stop trying? It doesn’t work that way. Do those things you used to do for your woman before you both became a couple and you’ll realize that apart from making your partner happy, it also makes you happy.
3. Be romantic: this includes taking walks hand in hand, making meals together, reading novels together, making her hair, buying her flowers. You don’t have to break your account to do something romantic too. Very small things count. You should try to be more romantic. This is obviously not exclusive to only one person. It’s your relationship and both of you should put in all the efforts necessary to make it a success.
4. Improve your sex life: stop being boring! Yes! As much as people would like to pretend like this isn’t an actual problem in their relationships, it is. You can’t be having sex according to schedules or no sex at all and expect your relationship to be fine. According to an article I stumbled upon some months back, “If you’re not giving it to your partner, he or she is getting it somewhere else”. Truth is, your partner isn’t satisfied and will never be until you make his/her satisfaction a priority and no matter how bad a day is, sex can make it good all of a sudden. Stop killing your sex life. Try something new. Try out themes, get costumes, get dirty, get horny together and put some life into that relationship.
5. Be best friends: ever wondered why you and your best friends would never run out of things to say? Or would never get tired of being around each other? It’s because you both share a bond that time and space cannot kill. Your partner should be your best friend though. You would be around some couples and almost die of boredom. Like their vibes would just get you tired. There’s no gist flowing, no spontaneous kisses, nobody is tickling the other. Nothing! Jesus! You both are supposed to be partners in crime and you are supposed to do everything together. Be nasty together, plan trips, gossip about that lady at the bank with the wrong shade of foundation for her makeup and that guy that fell into a gutter today. You won’t know but these funny moments you share together are the things that would keep your relationship beautiful every day. Thanks for reading today’s post. Stay tuned for more.
