Relationships are not easy to maintain. They are like children. They need all the time, love and affection in the world for them to prosper and grow well. Imagine having a child that you hardly feed or show love to or even give attention to? That child would grow a sad and emotionally downtrodden child and you, the parent would be to blame. That is exactly what happens to your relationship if it isn’t given all the necessary ingredients it needs to blossom.
One of the most important things to do for your relationship is communicate. Communication means the passing of information from one person to another. Now, you don’t have to start making it seem all weird and stuff, no. You can simply always talk with your partner. People usually underestimate the power of good communication. Whether it is between you and your friends, you and your parents, your siblings or your partner, communication is one essential ingredient that adds flavour to your relationship. I’ll be sharing some basic things communication does in your relationship in the following paragraphs and I hope you learn one or two things from it.
1. Communication removes all barriers: truth is, when you have constant and sincere communication with the people you hold dear to your heart, you would realize that those barriers that used to regulate your relationships with them will all disappear. The greatest of these barriers has to be be fear. I’ll use the family setting to explain this. In a family where the children fear their parents, they wouldn’t be able to talk to them about basic things. For example, a child could be bullied every day in school but won’t be able to open to her parents just because of one fear or the other. Funny thing is, fear makes us believe the worst things about people, which are usually not true. That child might think that if she tells her parents about the bullying, they would think she’s a coward and maybe make her feel bad. However, her parents might take it up and make sure it stops because, nobody wants their child to be unhappy. So, when you talk about things that bother you to the people you love, you would realize that they aren’t so insurmountable after all and you wouldn’t have to be scared to talk.
2. It builds trust: this covers all types of relationships. When there is a constant flow of communication between both parties, there is a gradual buildup of trust. A child that tells her mother everything that happens in school every day with her, a son that tells his father how his day went at the football field, a couple that talks about their day at work. You see these people? They can never fall out of trust. This is because little by little, you have begun to understand the person and how they behave, and you have gotten to know the person’s everyday routine and details. There is nothing you don’t know about this person and in case anybody says anything about this person, you are quick to defend them because apparently, you know them.
3. It keeps you happy and free of worries: having an ear to listen to and a heart to share your problems with should be put as one of the five things that can keep a person alive and happy. When you open up to your loved ones, you would create a bond and you would always love each other. Funny thing is, you would realize then that there isn’t a problem that doesn’t have a solution because a problem shared is half solved.
These are the three very important things that communication does for your relationship and I hope you learn how to communicate with whoever you find yourself with.
Wink’s Corner
